Welcome to another Wild Rose Journal!

I'm writing this one a little more ahead of time than usual - because it will be half term when this goes out. Enough said!!

It's also now a time of year when the Scorpio Hermit in me needs reminding that I actually can't disappear into my metaphorical cave, however much it's my default setting. Despite having 3 kids, I still dislike the commercial 'Haribo-Halloween' as I call it. I prefer to stay home and do my rituals...

The day after Halloween/Samhain is now also a very important time in my ancestral connection & blessing rituals, as it is the anniversary of my Dad's passing. This is what got me even deeper into turning what was once more of an 'interest' in ancestral healing, into actually having the courage to step up and do the work. My own line carries SO much grief - grief that sometimes, had to be buried, hidden away, or that made people cold and hardened their hearts.

We're looking at this subject in this week's blog post, which you can find below. As part of my Circle Facilitator training, we've been looking at this by Rupi Kaur which I find very grounding when I get the self-depreciating thoughts. Perhaps it can support you too:

“i am the first woman in my lineage with freedom of choice. to craft her future whichever way i choose. say what is on my mind when i want to. without the whip of the lash. there are hundreds of firsts i am thankful for. that my mother and her mother and her mother did not have the privilege of feeling. what an honor. to be the first woman in the family who gets to taste her desires. no wonder i am starving to fill up on this life. i have generations of bellies to eat for. the grandmothers must be howling with laughter. huddled around a mud stove in the afterlife. sipping on steaming glasses of milky masala chai. how wild it must be for them to see one of their own living so boldly.”
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Healing Intergenerational Trauma & Reclaiming Your Voice

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How ancestral patterns shape us – and how we begin to release them

There comes a point on every healing journey when you start to wonder: how much of what I’m carrying is really mine?

Perhaps you’ve noticed echoes of emotion that don’t seem to belong to your own story – fears, reactions, or patterns that arise almost out of nowhere. Or you’ve recognised something repeating through your family line: the same struggle, the same silence, the same kind of pain showing up generation after generation.

This is where we begin to meet the idea of intergenerational trauma – or, as many of us working with the unseen would call it, ancestral healing.

What is intergenerational trauma?

Modern science is beginning to catch up with what spiritual traditions have always known: that trauma can ripple down through families. Research suggests that profound stress or trauma can leave genetic and energetic imprints which may influence future generations.

Whether we view it through the language of DNA or energy, the message is the same: what remains unhealed in one generation can quietly seek expression in the next.

Sometimes this shows up as emotional patterns – perfectionism, self-doubt, people-pleasing, or difficulty setting boundaries. Sometimes it takes the form of deep fears or anxieties that don’t seem to have a clear cause in our own lifetime.

Becoming aware of these threads isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness — seeing clearly what has been carried, so we can decide not to carry it any further.

Recognising what’s yours – and what isn’t

As we grow more attuned to our own inner landscape, we begin to sense the difference between what truly belongs to us and what might be inherited.

If you practise energy work, you may have already experienced this. When you’re ungrounded, it’s easy to pick up on others’ emotions, to feel things that don’t quite feel like your own. The same discernment applies to ancestral patterns.

You might notice:

• Strong emotions that seem out of proportion to the situation.
• Repeating family dynamics that echo through generations.
• A deep knowing that something you carry didn’t start with you.

These realisations can be unsettling, but they’re also the doorway to healing.

The silencing of women

A powerful example many of us hold in our ancestral lines is the suppression of women’s voices.

For centuries, women were punished or dismissed for speaking their truth, for expressing power or emotion. That silencing seeps into the collective field, showing up today as hesitation to use our voices, people-pleasing tendencies, or discomfort with boundaries.

Even in modern, “liberated” cultures, the echo remains. We may logically know we can speak, yet the body still holds a memory of danger in doing so.

Recognising this isn’t about revisiting every detail of history — it’s about understanding that these imprints exist, and choosing to meet them with compassion and conscious re-learning.

Healing doesn’t require perfect knowledge

It’s natural to want to trace every thread — where did this start? who began it? — but we can get lost in that search.

True healing doesn’t depend on knowing every story. What matters is acknowledging what we feel now, bringing it into awareness, and choosing to release or transform it.

You might never know the exact ancestor whose pain you’re carrying, or the exact moment a family pattern began. That’s okay. You can still offer it healing through your own presence, your own willingness to live differently.

Beginning the work

Healing intergenerational patterns can look many ways. For some, it’s through therapy or journalling; for others, through ritual, meditation, or energy work.

In my own practice, I often use energy healing – a combination of Reiki and earth-based work – alongside the chakra system as a framework. Each chakra holds certain emotional themes, and by working with them, we can begin to dissolve stuck patterns gently and safely.

A few examples:

• Heart chakra – for ancestral patterns around love, emotional distance, or fear of connection.
• Throat chakra – for healing silencing and reclaiming your voice.
• Solar plexus and sacral chakras – for power, confidence, and self-trust.

Energy work meets you where you are. It unfolds at the pace your body and spirit are ready for — never forcing, always guiding.

Honouring your lineage

One beautiful and grounding way to begin ancestral healing is simply to learn more about your roots.

Exploring your family tree can bring a sense of connection and curiosity rather than judgment. Listen to stories from older relatives if you can. Even the small, ordinary memories can hold clues about the patterns that shaped your lineage.

You might notice traits, choices, or struggles that echo through time — not to fixate on them, but to witness them with compassion. Awareness alone begins to soften what’s been held in shadow.

Recommended companions on this path

If you’d like to explore this further, these books are gentle and insightful places to start:

• It Didn’t Start with You by Mark Wolynn
• Healing Ancestral Karma by Steven Farmer
• Ancestral Healing Made Easy by Natalia and Terry O’Sullivan
• Ancestral Medicine by Daniel Foor

Each offers a slightly different doorway into understanding and working with inherited trauma and ancestral connection.

Let it stop with you

Ultimately, the purpose of this work isn’t to unearth endless pain. It’s to end the cycle.

We may never meet all the ancestors who shaped us, but through our own healing, we can offer peace backward and forward through time.

Every time we soften a reaction, find our voice, or choose love instead of fear, we send ripples of healing through the family line.

As I often remind myself: the work we do for ourselves is never only for ourselves.

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A gentle invitation

If this speaks to you, take a quiet moment this week to sit with your lineage. Light a candle, breathe deeply, and simply offer gratitude — to those who came before, and to yourself for choosing a new way forward.

Upcoming Offerings

🌹 Rose & Ashes – 6-Week Grief Tending Journey​
If you're carrying grief that feels heavy, confusing, or isolating, Rose & Ashes offers a sacred space to be gently witnessed and held. This six-week 1:1 journey is designed for women ready to honour their losses and reclaim lightness, meaning, and connection.

What to Expect:

• Intro Call: Set intentions and share your story in a safe, held space.
• 5 Weekly 1:1 Calls: Guided conversations with room for ritual practices and optional distance energy healing.
• Closing Ritual: Integrate your journey and weave new meaning from your grief.
• Light Check-Ins Between Sessions: Weekly email reflections, plus one optional deeper check-in (via email or Voxer voice note) to support your healing between calls.
• Personalised Ritual Suggestions: Simple, practical practices you can carry into daily life to nurture and support your ongoing process.

The next round begins on 10th November 2025, and spaces are limited. If you're not ready to commit to the full six weeks, introductory grief tending sessions (£30) are available as a gentle taste of the work.

If this resonates with you or someone you know, feel free to reach out with any questions or to express your interest.

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Wild Rose Mothers Online Circle - A Sanctuary for the Unseen​
The Wild Mothers Online Circle is a gentle, monthly space for mothers to reconnect with themselves, share in community, and be held in a supportive environment. Whether you're navigating grief, burnout, or simply the complexities of motherhood, this circle offers a moment to pause and breathe.

What to Expect:

• Gentle Structure: Each gathering includes a settling-in period, a guiding question or theme, optional sharing, and a meditation or reflection.
• Inclusive Participation: You are welcome to share, listen, or simply be present — your presence is enough.
• Accessible Format: Held online, making it accessible from anywhere.
• Pay-As-You-Go: £6 per session, with no ongoing commitment.

Next Circle: Monday, 3rd November, 8–9pm UK time.

Subscriber-Only Peek: Behind the Scenes

I’m putting the finishing touches on Reclaim Your Wild Heart: A Wild Rose Path Journey, a soulful audio + journal experience designed to help you release what’s been holding you back and reconnect with your inner power. It includes:

• A guided audio journey to ground, release, and rise
• A beautifully designed journal PDF with prompts and reflections
• A gentle ritual to reconnect with your wild, wise self

I’m also finalising our signature Wild Rose Path herbal creations. These are being crafted slowly, in small batches, with intention, and the love of lots of play in the process! Many of the herbs I use are grown in my garden, here under the Howgill Fells in Sedbergh.

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The products I'm currently working on are:

• Heart-opening ritual rollerball oil (Rose & Frankincense + infused Mugwort, Rose, Lavender, and Yarrow)
• Signature tea blend in the works (You'll bet it's got Rose in it!)
• Herbal sachets - For those who wish to work with a particular plant spirit as part of their ritual work, or simply want to experience the properties of a plant that maybe they're not able to ingest or put onto the skin, these are lovely to keep close and fit in a pocket or bag.

I hope these reflections and creations offer you small moments of nourishment and guidance, reminding you that even in quiet, everyday practices, your inner strength and wisdom are being tended.

From the path,

Sarah

P.S. If this Journal speaks to you, please consider sharing it with another woman who might need it. We’re all craving connection, community, and ritual — by sharing our stories and these spaces, we help each other rise, remember the old ways, and support one another on the journey.